That issue is for later on. ANd yes, it is probably a good one if you are going for limiting the support she receives. BUT the first thing you absolutely must do is get a list of the 7 "best" cut throat attorneys in your area and pay for a consultation with each of them. This knocks them out of the running to represent her on conflict of interest. You deserve a leg up. Go out and get it. It will be a grand well spent to know her lawyer isn't as good as yours. HURRY. Shoshana
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legal question
by og inso, after trying to make a religiously split household work for more than three years, i'm divorcing my wife.
and, she has apparently decided that since i'm obviously demonized and since her preaching work is god's will, anything goes in the settlement, including going after money my parents put into our home, which she knows was intended as a protection of their income.. and... since she pioneered for our entire marriage, and never worked 'secularly' she is going for indefinite maintenance (alimony).
so, here's my question: does anyone have an opinion about whether or not it's a good idea to try and establish that she spent far more time doing ministry than she spent on domestic support and child care?
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As a YOUNG loyal JW, did you think you would see you're 60th birthday ?
by run dont walk inwith all the talk in the organization about the end being so close, and we have all heard this story over and over again for years, as a young/loyal jw, did you think you would see your 60th birthday.. if we were to walk into the kingdom hall today and poll all the jw's under 30, and ask them "will you see your 60th birthday", what kind of response would you get ???.
armageddon is not coming, the year 2014 will pass, as will 2025, 2075, 2100, and even 3000. .
would love to hear experiences from some of the older ones on this board, who probaly thought the same thing when they were young.
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La Capra
That was my problem. I couldn't see it as just around the next bend. I knew I needed an education, and not some trade, to be able to support myself. I got so much initial flak and rejection from the congregation during my first year at the university, that I started my second one out of the organization. I got more love, affection and acceptance from classmates that barely knew me than those who had known me since I was a babe. Fast forward 15 years. I'm still here, and I still need to support myself. I have a nice job, with a nice salary, and enough to enjoy myself, or go to law school... one of the two...I wouldn't have a nice home and financial security if I wasn't willing to admit to myself that armegeddon wasn't just around the next bend. Thank goodness I checked a road map before I bought that load of crap. And those out in service now are gleefully announcing the change in the generation doctrine, as though that makes it all better now, and see, it's okay to plan for the future now. Well, if I had waited for that, I'd be destitute right now (or married to an idgit I couldn't stand). Shoshana
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Do you miss the Kingdom Melodies?
by Candlestick02 injust curious.
i went to the 3rd church that i've ever stepped foot into after leaving the borg 3 years ago.
so, as i'm standing there (in the front row, i might add) for the musical worship portion of the service.. i felt like a big idiot.
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The music never moved me, and I was disappointed when they moved to tapes from someone playing the piano. But, once I left, the VERY first thing I did was join the university chorus. I couldn't wait to sing. To sing hymns, spirituals and masses with others who knew what they were doing, with a real live conductor shaping our performance was a more spiritual experience for me than any song that I ever sang at the Kingdom Hall. It was chorus that put meaning into singing prayers for me. Yet another clue that JWs weren't it for me. Shoshana
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Little girl, is this man your Daddy?
by Nathan Natas ini had an uncomfortable experience yesterday.
i was in a barnes and noble bookstore when nature called, so i walk into the men's' room.
there are two stalls - one for wheelchair access, and one regular one.
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La Capra
There is an easy solution for the parent, but not the bystander. If a father has his girls and he needs to use a restroom, the staff at a store, restaurant, etc. can reasonably be trusted to sit with the children for 3 or 5 minutes. This is not too much to expect from the staff. If they refuse, just ask to speak with a manager, this should take care of it. Nothing is going to happen with a staff member patiently waiting outside a restroom in front of everyone for a few minutes. I used to baby sit a 5 year old boy. And when we went off on our daily summer adventures, this used to happen. If I had to go, I would ask an employee of the establishment to watch for 2 minutes, and it was never a problem. If he had to go, I would ask one of the male staff members to accompany him to the john, while I hovered outside for the two or three minutes. People have to pee. People need privacy. Bystanders should not have to feel uncomfortable. Nothing is going to happen in the time needed to take a leak. And you are right there if it starts to take too long. We all must rely on the kindness of strangers from time to time...some are more trustworthy than others, employees with name tags and a pending paycheck are not going to take off with the kid. Shoshana
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What is your favorite food?
by Joker10 ini personally don't have any favorites.
i dont know why some people's favorite is pizza.
just serve me rice and beans and i'm happy.
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Chocolate Cake. It's Chocolate Cake. There is nothing in my mouth that feels, tastes and swallows like Chocolate Cake. Shoshana
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Back in the meat raffle of life!
by joannadandy inof late i have been rattling on about my new boy toy- .
it was a wonderful summer romance that began with the kick off of memorial day fireworks, peaked on the fourth of july--and fizzled out before labor day.
oui?
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Shoshana the yenta here. Joanna, if you send me your e-mail address in a pm, I would like to describe to you a really cool apostate-esque guy I know of that might be your cup of tea, and I think you may be his. If we can e-mail off this board, I could send you on the "path" to hook up....I seem to be able to get pms but not always send them, so if you give me an addy, I will definitely get back to you. Hang in there....Shoshana
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My dentist saved me today
by La Capra ini adore my dentist.
she inherited me when my dentist before passed away, about 7 years ago.
she always remembers everything about me and asks tons of questions that i can't answer while she clears away the plaque of the last six months.
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La Capra
Three more years of tightchestedness...unacceptable, in my book. My close friends have had it with me, always ready to burst into random tears...something must be done, and qutiing law school just doesn't make sense. Quitting my job sounds VERY appealling, but I need to live and pay for law school. I'm just having back to the classroom blues this week. It will be better once the rugrats are in my presence and I can see the hand I have been dealt for the next 180 days... AND I'll have a new drug....Shoshana.
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My dentist saved me today
by La Capra ini adore my dentist.
she inherited me when my dentist before passed away, about 7 years ago.
she always remembers everything about me and asks tons of questions that i can't answer while she clears away the plaque of the last six months.
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La Capra
Oh, cause, then it would give me something else to worry about. Actually, my dentist said it was called propranolol. It is a nonselective beta adrenergic blocker...Just read the page out of her drug book she gave me. It's good for a variety of other annoyances as well. The reason most people don't know about this one is because it really doesn't make you feel happier. It just allows you not to be affected so detrimentally by the little stuff. I guess everyone is off to see their doctors today. Shoshana
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My dentist saved me today
by La Capra ini adore my dentist.
she inherited me when my dentist before passed away, about 7 years ago.
she always remembers everything about me and asks tons of questions that i can't answer while she clears away the plaque of the last six months.
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What is the name of the drug....it would be irresponsible for me to name it, but it is a drug that is actually prescribed for high blood pressure, but can be used effectively for anxiety. Fact is your doctor probably took it when she was in med school, too... And as for worrying about things that can't be helped. That is the problem. If you have anxiety, it is beyond mental worrying. It is a physical worry...it as though your body is in constant fight or flight reaction. When some ordinary daily roadblock comes along, the internal reaction is not normal, it's as though losing your pencil creates the same reaction as your house burning down...Just not thinking about it doesn't take the physical reaction away. I am brilliant about not thinking about things, but I can't shake the tightness in my chest. Which, of course is one more thing about which to worry. Shoshana
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Whats the deal with the napkins on the head?
by RoadDoctor in.
what is the idea behind the sisters wearing a head covering when they lead a group for field service?
is there something written in the bible new world translation about this?
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La Capra
The only time I saw the napkin technicality used was during girls-only showers and teas. It was time to eat, and the hostess wouls just grab the nearest thing handy-a napkin off the table. Otherwise there was someone prepared with a hat or scarf. Not that this will ever come up for me in my life again, but I think I would rather have a clean napkin on my head rather than the "congregation scarf." Thme nits is nasty...Shoshana